The Lessons That Only Motherhood Can Teach
/By: Kristy Kemp
Being a mom has taught me , well I would have to write a book to share everything, but I will share a few. Being a mom has taught me what true unconditional love means. That it is possible to love so deeply it hurts. That even if you have done everything right it's all wrong. Your patience is tested every single day some days you pass the test with flying colors and some days you fail miserably, but you learn to forgive yourself even more everyday. It's hard to accept that you're human because that means you make mistakes and being a mom has taught me that the thought I may mess up terrifies me because I set myself to some perfect non human standard. When reality hits and I make a mistake which I inevitably do, the feeling of guilt overwhelms me because remember that non human standard I try to live up to? The standard in which I do all the right things, say all the right things, yeah it's not humanly possible. I learned instead of trying to live by some unrealistic standard, to instead realize that I can't and learn to accept and be okay with it and not hide in a corner thinking my life's a disaster. It was really hard in the beginning to let go of all the guilt and the shame, but I learn to let go of just a little each and every single day.
The Exact Moment I Knew I Was Meant To Be A Breastfeeding Advocate
/By: Kristy Kemp
I did not grow up thinking, "One day when I grow up I'm gonna run a huge breastfeeding support community and help moms through their journey all over the world." No that wasn't the case. That wasn't the case because I didn't even know a position like that or role like that existed. Looking back I don't ever recall even seeing breastfeeding. I remember in my teens being shocked that babies can get milk from the breast too, instead of just a bottle, but I didn't understand the specifics of it. I thought maybe it was just something they did right after birth, but then when you take them home from the hospital it's straight to formula and bottles. I also think that's part of the problem in today's society is lack of awareness and knowledge. Sure you can let your kid know that babies get milk from a boob too, but they can't really fully comprehend the extent of it unless they are around it, they see it, they have more than a 1 minute conversation about it. Hiding your kids from knowing and understanding breastfeeding is a HUGE disservice to them, but that's another topic for a different day.
6 Contradictory Arguments Against Breastfeeding
/By: Kristy Kemp
A lot of the arguments I hear against breastfeeding contradict themselves. I have listed 6 of them in this article.. What would you add to this list?
1.) "Show some respect and at least cover yourself when you breastfeed."
Respect- Agree to recognize and abide by (a legal requirement).
Since it's a woman's legal right to breastfeed in public HOWEVER she chooses, I'd say the only ones being disrespectful are the ones interfering, not recognizing or RESPECTING said law.
Respect- avoid harming or interfering with.
I would say interfering with a mom breastfeeding her baby is pretty disrespectful.
So yeah I agree. Show some respect by recognizing and abiding by the law which says a woman can breastfeed in public and respect said mother and child by not interfering with a mom feeding her baby a meal.
2.) "Breastfeeding is the best nutrition, but it definitely shouldn't happen after 12 months."
The Word Health Organization Recommendation on Breastfeeding- Encourages breastfeeding all the way up to age two or beyond alongside complimentary foods.
You can't pick and choose when something is the best or not based off your personal preference. Scientifically speaking breastmilk consumed at any age is beneficial and nutritional. If you agree that breastmilk is the best nutrition from age 0-12 months, but think it's pointless past 12 months you contradict yourself.
3.) "I don't think there is anything sexual about breastfeeding, but breasts are seen as sexual, therefore I don't want my kids or my husband to see it."
The main purpose of a breast is to produce milk to feed our offspring. Sure, they can be used sexually as well, but when they are being used to feed a baby there is nothing sexual about the breast in that moment.
Saying you know there isn't anything sexual about breastfeeding, would mean that you have learned to separate breasts in the sexual sense verse their biological purpose, but saying that you know there isn't anything sexual about breastfeeding, but it should still be hidden from view because breasts are sexual is contradicting because you are then still associating sex with breastfeeding. Get it?
15 Ignorant Excuses People Give Why A Mom Shouldn't Breastfeed In Public
/49 out of the 50 States make breastfeeding in public a legally protected right.
1. "It should only be done in private or it is between a mother and child."
a. So then a woman giving her child a bottle is also something to be done in private?
b. Do you always eat in private?
c. If you choose to do it in private then that is your choice. Not everyone chooses to do that nor do they have to.
d. Does that mean that a breastfeeding mom should never leave her house? This is just not possible for most women.
e. Would you want to get up from dinner with your family or stop what you are doing to find a private location?
2. "Cover Up."
a. Many babies hate being covered even with a light blanket. They will kick, scream, and make a fuss.
b. It might be 90 degrees out, would you want to be under a blanket?
c. Do you eat with a blanket on your head?
3. "Bring a bottle."
a. Many babies refuse bottles, you could try tons of different types over and over and yet, they refuse.
b. Breast pumps can be expensive and many women are unable to get enough milk out when pumping despite being able to produce enough milk to breastfeed.
1. Pumping can be time consuming, difficult and painful for many women too.
4. "Don't leave the house when a baby will be hungry."
a. Do you eat at the exact same time every day?
b. Many women have kids, jobs etc. and with busy lives, this is not an option.
c. Many breastfed babies eat on demand, especially because they have small stomachs and eat more frequently.
5. "Be discreet."
a. There are different definitions of discreet. Yours may be different from the person next to you. Generally speaking, when a baby is actually nursing, the entire nipple is in his mouth. You probably see less boob than in many low cut dresses or swim suits.
b. Most women don't “whip it out” and stand up and say “Hey, look at me, I am getting my boobs out to nurse.” Most people would not even notice a women breastfeeding.
c. The more people that see a women breastfeeding, the more it becomes the norm.
d. People have foot fetishes so should everyone wear socks?
6. "Why don't you just go in the bathroom?"
a. Seriously?? Bathrooms are DIRTY AND GERM FILLED. Would you even think about eating in one?
7. "I don't pee in public, why should a women nurse in public? Or peeing is natural too. (This goes for sex as well)."
a. They are two totally different things. The above argument is totally irrelevant unless you are trying to ban public eating too.
b. There are bathrooms specifically created for peeing.
c. Peeing (or having sex) in public is against the law. Breastfeeding in public is a legally protected act.
8. "Why do women these days think it is ok to breastfeed in public? Women in my day were discreet."
a. Guess what? You may not remember it but up until the early 1970’s, it was totally normal for women to breastfeed in public. It was on tv shows too-like Sesame
Street and Mr. Rogers.
b. It wasn’t until formula companies started making women think they shouldn’t nurse in public. This was their way of getting more women to purchase formula.
c. http://www.buzzfeed.com/morganshanahan/stunning-portraits-of-breastfeeding-mothers-throughout-hi#.thyM8YY8l
9. "It is a sexual act."
a. Seriously, go back to school or actually go to jail because if you think breastfeeding a baby is in any way remotely sexual, then you are a disgusting, perverted pedophile.
b. Breasts were created to feed a child. That is their sole purpose. They have been sexualized by society. There is absolutely nothing sexual about a baby breastfeeding.
10. "I don’t want my kids seeing that."
a. Again, there is NOTHING sexual about breastfeeding.
b. You don’t want your kids to know what breasts are actually for?
c. It is ok for your child to walk by a lingerie ad that is 10 feet tall with boobs spilling out and is clearly selling sex, but you don’t want your kids to know what breasts are actually for?
d. If more kids witnessed nursing they would grow up knowing that breasts are not sexual objects, be more respectful of women, and be more likely to nurse or support a nursing spouse in the future.
The Last Latch
/By: Kristy Kemp
We have this special connection that I would like to attribute to breastfeeding . Through breastfeeding I have been able to sustain your life for as long as you have been alive. I have been able to comfort you all throughout the night. It was the only way I could ever get you to shut your eyes.
Breastfeeding you has been a big part, probably the biggest of our lives. Even before you came home from the hospital you were latched right on. baby & boob is pretty much all we knew .
I'm not sure how we will be able to cope now that the time has come, for us to end this chapter, but dear baby, know that our connection will always live on. I may not be your sole source of nutrition anymore, but I will always know how to comfort you, love you, cuddle you, after all I am your mother.
This transition is probably harder on me than it is on you. You are growing up so fast and one day out of the blue you didn't want to latch. You are telling me you're ready to let this part of us go, but only when you're ready because I will never tell you no.