By: Kristy Kemp
Butter- Someone who claims to fully support breastfeeding, BUT really does not.
One day out of pure frustration of all the people who would comment, "I support breastfeeding and all, but just cover it up." I came up with a graphic introducing, "Butter" to the breastfeeding community and it caught on rather quickly. It made sense, it's someone butting into someone else's breastfeeding choices. I wanted a word that was satire, catchy, a bit comical, yet brought awareness to a serious issue, which is people who think they are supporting breastfeeding, they claim to support it, but they really don't. It's important to me that the, 'Butters" are aware of their Butterisms , because on the off chance they really do want to support breastfeeding and they just aren't aware that their words aren't true support , calling them a Butter will make them aware.
I also need to clarify that you aren't considered a Butter when you are referencing yourself. People get confused by that. For instance, when they say, "I support breastfeeding in public, but I personally only feel comfortable using a cover." No you aren't a butter when the conditions you place are only on yourself. It's when people try to place conditions on OTHER mamas. The whole point of the Butter word is to remind people to be supportive of ANY choice a breastfeeding mama makes. So that would be a contradictory use of the word if I would refer to a breastfeeding mom as a Butter who is only stating what her personal preference is.
It's not about name calling or anything like that. I have had a lot of people flip out over my use of this word saying how it's immature , I shouldn't call people names, yada yada yada. Which is funny considering they had no care or consideration for the mom they were criticizing. Again, when I refer to someone as a Butter it's just my way of making them aware that they aren't true supporters of breastfeeding. Which I believe to be a fact. If you want to claim to support something you can't only support it as long as they do it to your liking. Other people say, "Okay well why waste your time? Why do you need to call them out on their lack of true support?" Like I mentioned above , it's important to the breastfeeding community that people know what true support entails and what it means, it's important that the people are made aware they aren't really supporting breastfeeding on the off chance they may not even be aware and change the way they talk about breastfeeding in the future. Yes, I have had successful conversations with previous Butters , they realized the errors in their ways and have been promoted to breastfeeding supporter. True story.