• I DO NOT, EVER PUT MY DAUGHTER TO SLEEP- Every night after dinner, we all go brush our teeth. My little girl lets one of us brush or should I say attempt to brush her 14 teeth and then “bed time”. I do not, ever put my daughter to sleep “FOR MY WIFE”. Bed time is a great time for me and my baby. We usually spend about an hour in her room. Just her and I together. She lays on top of me and I read her three books. Usually her three personal favorites Baby says good night, Goodnight Moon and On the night you were born. After I read her the three books she spends about another 15-20 minutes talking to me, playing with my face, pulling on my beard, etc. Eventually she doses off on top of me. This happens almost every night. Some of you might say she should be sleeping on her own, etc, etc. But this is just the reality of things. More often than I would like I end up passing out as well and then my wife comes in and finds us both passed out on the chair in her room. What makes you think I do that every night for my wife. I do that completely for my little girl and for myself.
• I DO NOT PUT DIAPER BAGS TOGETHER- I do not put diaper bags together, let alone carry it “FOR MY WIFE”. Okay, the carry part I do mostly for my wife…LOL. She’s very pregnant. When we are out and about it is very important to have everything you could ever need in that bag. Diapers, Wipes, Water, Extra clothes, First Aid, etc, etc. If my baby ever needs any one of those things and we don’t have it that is simply unacceptable. I make sure that bag is stocked and complete every time before we head out because my baby deserves that and much more from both of us.
• I DO NOT MAKE SURE MY DAUGHTER IS DRESSED PROPERLY- Regardless of what we are doing I do not make sure my daughter is dressed properly “FOR MY WIFE”. I always make sure she is dressed appropriately. If we are going somewhere nice she gets the dress, the nice shoes, the head band. I may butcher the color schemes or fabric tones or whatever else is wrong in fashion, but I always make sure my little girl is dressed for the activity, her hair is brushed and she is comfortable. I don’t take this upon myself for my wife to not have to do it or because she asks me to do it. I do it for my baby girl, so she looks pretty, so she gets compliments, so she can be comfortable.
In closing, becoming a dad for me was milestone that could never be surpassed by anything else. I cannot imagine anything greater in my life. My daughter defined to me the true meaning of perfection, love and complete selfless adoration. This and many other reasons are why I do not take care of my baby for my wife or as a favor to my wife. I need my little girl to always remember and know without a shadow of a doubt, that her daddy was the best friend, caretaker, teacher, man, husband, and father she will ever meet. I know I am not the only dad that feels this way. There are many men who care and adore their children. Who choose to be a protagonist in their child’s life not a sidekick. Who choose to be Batman, not Robin or worse The Joker. Loving my children is supreme, them loving me back is paradise.
