Response To, Dear Breastfeeding Moms, Is It Really That Hard to Cover Up?
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This infamous article- "Dear Breastfeeding Moms, Is it Really that Hard to Cover up?" is making it's rounds again, so, I thought I would be the voice that I am and give a nice little response to it. Please share far and wide! That other article already got it's fifteen minutes time to push it aside.
"Is it really that hard to cover up?"
For some moms, yes it is. What works for one could be completely out of the question for the other. When you have a baby who fights the cover off the whole time they are eating, some moms end up exposing more skin because they are focusing on wrestling with the cover, and the baby unlatching because they are ticked off about being covered. Check out my article- "9 Reasons Why I Don't Cover When I Breastfeed."
"Here's the deal: Strangers don't want to see your areola. (Yeah, that's it.)"
Okay, here's the deal, breastfeeding moms normally don't expose areola, you know, since the baby's mouth is covering it... Another simple solution, would be for people not to look.
"I don't get what part of that is offensive."
Let me break it down for you. A breastfeeding mom does not want to hear about how much you disapprove of how she is breastfeeding. Feeling the need to criticize or harass a mom to breastfeed in a different manner, to appease complete strangers around her is pretty upsetting.
"Look, I get it. I've breastfed all of my children, so I totally understand that covering up can be a pain. At first, it's fine, but once they hit 6 months, they're old enough to realize they don't want a blanket sitting on their face while they eat, and the whole feeding is a fight. I've been there. I get it."
Oh look at what we have here. You do know that covers are a pain and baby's/toddlers fight them off, so did you lie in the beginning of your article when you ask if it's really that hard to cover up? So, is this article only against moms who are breastfeeding kids 6 months and older, uncovered? So, is it some magical thing that happens, when the baby who previously didn't like the cover, suddenly just goes with it? You know, I really don't think that's how it works and I really don't think you get it or you wouldn't be shaming breastfeeding moms who choose not to use a cover.
Your Baby Might Be Breastfed If...
/People may not be able to spot a breastfed baby just from looking at them, but there are a few character traits and indications that a baby is breastfed. Let me add, that , babies who aren't breastfed may very well do some of the things on this list. Your baby might be breastfed if...
1.) They are always eye balling boobs
2.) They grab boobs. Your boobs, your friends boobs, or anything that resembles a boob.
3.) They try to latch onto anything that resembles a nipple.
4.) They try to latch on to daddy's nipple.
5.) They have a little too much fun with bras.
6.) Cannot leave them unattended in stores that have mannequin
7.) The way they eat offends society.
8.) They have no idea what a bottle is for or how to use it.
9.) For no apparent reason, They reach in and look inside your shirt from time to time..
10.) They eat in the weirdest positions.
11.) They are very demanding and impatient because they are used to not having to wait for a bottle to be made. When they want it, you better give it or there will be hell to pay.
12.) Seeing your fully exposed boob makes them uncontrollably happy.
13.) Their poop looks like mustard.
14.) They can eat their milk frozen
15.) Their milk has other incredible uses that don't involve nourishing them.
16.) No matter what you're doing, they stop by and latch which isn't always an issue, but it sure makes for some pretty interesting bathroom trips.
17.) Their milk is referred to as liquid gold.
How many of those things apply to your breastfed baby or their milk? What other things indicate a baby might be breastfed that isn't listed?
Wet Nursing Moms Shamed On The View Responds...
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Chrystal Klein and Stefani Tatavitto, are best friends that would do anything for each other, including, nurse each others babies. Recently, The View, featured the two of them and once again spewed some ignorant things about wet-nursing and breastfeeding. When I found out that one of the moms was a member in my private group community, I figured I would reach out to the girls to see how they felt about the segment. I asked the girls why they started wet nursing each others babies.
"Chrystal, was having a hard time keeping up with pumping so she could leave milk for the baby while she was at work, and didn't want to have to use formula. It's not an abnormal thing for me. Wet nursing is a natural thing and used to be widely practiced."
Chrystal Klein and Stefani Tatavitto had no idea that they were being talked about on The View until some of their friends brought it to their attention. They were both surprised that The View featured their story/photo because it didn't seem like the type of story they'd usually talk about and she definitely was not shocked that they were not at all knowledgeable on the subject. They both really appreciate PAULA FARI, comments though.
Dear In laws, Thank you, but I think I know my baby better than you.
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Sometimes you have people in your life who seem to think they know your baby better than you do. Now don't get me wrong, sometimes there is friendly advice or tips, but then there are backhanded remarks and jabs on your parenting choices.
You're visiting your in laws over the holiday's and it seems like every single thing you do comes with some backhanded remark about how they did such and such differently or that they never did such and such with their son and he turned out just fine. It just gets so frustrating.
When your baby cries you pick him up, every single time. Then you get the, "You're going to spoil him if you cater to his every cry", or "He is just testing you, if you keep picking him up he will become too dependent on you." Since when did a baby being dependent on their mom become a bad thing? Aren't all babies dependent on their parents? It's not possible to spoil a baby either , especially when it's with your presence. Thank you, but I think I know my baby better than you.
Dinner time comes and they go to feed your baby a bite of mashed potatoes, you stop them and nicely say, "He is exclusively breastfeeding and not quite ready for solid foods yet, my milk gets the job done just fine." You would think that it would end there, right? Wrong. You get to hear, "I fed my son when he was just 4 months old and look at him, he turned out just fine! Stop being so paranoid." It's not paranoia, it's facts and it's the recommendation from The World Health Organization & The Academy of Pediatrics to hold off on solid foods until six months of age. There have been some new data that maybe wasn't available when she fed solids to her son years ago. Thank you, but I think I know my baby better than you.
Baby wants to nurse, you put him on the boob. Here come the, "Seems like that baby is always attached to your boob, you sure he is getting enough milk?" Considering that breastfeeding isn't just about the milk and babies nurse when they are thirsty, hurt, sad, overstimulated, need comfort, etc... yes baby is getting plenty of milk and then some.. Thank you, but I think I know my baby better than you.
You put baby down for a nap. About five minutes passes and baby starts to cry as soon as he realizes you weren't right by him. You get up to comfort him and you are questioned as you walk to the room with, "Let that baby cry, it's good for their lungs and you comfort him every time you will never get any sleep." Well, considering baby is in a new environment and you normally sleep right next to him when you're at home, so he feels secure and content, you get a ton of sleep, probably more sleep than most! Thank you, but I think I know my baby better than you.
Graphic Via The Milk Meg
You have a shy baby that maybe isn't so friendly with other people and naturally so. Some of your relatives and in laws take offense to it and say, "Well he needs to learn manners and respect. You don't want him growing up to be disrespectful , do you?" Babies and small children are not being disrespectful when they don't want to show affection and forcing them to give a hug or allow someone to hold them when they aren't feeling it is definitely not how you teach them respect. I let my child warm up to people and once he feels comfortable they may get a smile or a hug and that should be enough. My kid will know his manners and be respectful, but forcing him to show affection is not the way to do it. Thank you, but I think I know my baby better than you.
Being a new mom is stressful enough and mixing that in with in laws criticizing your every move can be very stressful. It's important that they understand boundaries, and that in the end you are the mom. The choices you make is because you know your baby better than anyone. You are with your baby more than anyone else. You know what your baby needs and you have great instincts, and that's what you go by. Although it would be nice to not have any disagreements or conflict when it comes to your baby, you protect no matter what, and don't feel bad about it!
Southwest Airlines Supervisors Tells Breastfeeding Mom To Cover...
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You would think after all these headlines with breastfeeding discrimination, businesses would have been made aware that there are laws that protect breastfeeding moms. You would think after countless nurse-ins and protests people would know that it's never okay to request that a breastfeeding mother cover herself or request that she move to private area. No matter what your personal opinion is with breastfeeding in public the law is the law and no one is exempt from that.
Melanie Davis, wrote me, sharing her experience at Southwest Airlines, in Nevada.
