12 Mommy Confessions You Should Read...
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You would be surprised at what mommies will confess when they can let loose anonymously. I started a new thing on my website where anyone can send in their Mommy Confession anonymously to get whatever they need to off their chest. To my surprise, there has already been hundreds of confessions sent in! Since I can't list them all one by one I figured I would take my favorites and list them all here below! Let me know if you can relate to any of these and feel free to send in your own Mommy Confession.. (HERE)
#1.) “I go to the bathroom & say I have to poop and scroll on my phone for like 7 minutes, then flush the toilet and spray the air freshener. Sometimes I fake belly aches and do this a few times a day. Oops.”
#2.) “ I'll get up in the middle of the night to watch new episodes of our favorite show before I watch it with my husband. He thinks the first time I see it is with him, but the kids are always interrupting and who gets up to tend to them??? Me. Sometimes I just want to watch in peace and actually hear the whole show!”
#3.) “Our daughter's are in two different day cares, so I act like I have a million things to do in the morning so my husband will drop our 21 month old off on his way to work that way I only have to deal with the easier 2 month old. After he leaves I relax and enjoy some coffee and quiet time before I actually have to get ready for work!”
#4.) “Sometimes if I'm tired, but can't sleep, I wake up my son and nurse him. I go right to sleep and so does he. Breastfeeding win.”
#5.) “Now it's my turn to be stay at home parent and I don't think I can live up to my husband. Plus living with 5 other people I feel like I'm always being watched and silently judged. I'm just so tired.”
#6.) “When I'm pumping I will sometimes pretend I'm right in the middle of an incredibly wonderful and long letdown in order to get my husband to change the poop diaper I just heard my kid load up. My husband's fear of me leaking milk all over the house is a great way for me to take a break! “
#7.) “There are times people want to hold my daughter, I don't want to be rude and tell them no so I let them try... my heart smiles when she cries and reaches for me.”
#8.) “I can no longer sleep without my child in my arms, but I never realize it until I have a chance to nap alone and I just lay there feeling empty and how much I'd rather lay on the edge of the bed while my kid takes up the rest of it.”
#9.) “ I love my husband I really do. But every time my daughter bites while nursing he laughs and tells me I'm being a sissy. The only thing I want is for her to chomp down on him with her seven teeth and see how he likes it..”
#10.) “I'm a stay at home mom (for now) but I am so ready to go back to school and get my degree. Everyone says enjoy this time, Which makes me think well obviously, I have a great kid how can I not enjoy it?! BUT I am so ready for adult conversations that have nothing to do with kids!”
#11.) “I see all these mommies saying they never really leave their babies & it makes me feel like a terrible mother. I'm leaving my little one for 2 days... It makes me feel bad about myself.”
#12.) “Some days I don't like my daughter or the fact that I chose to breastfeed.”
Maybe you can relate to some of these, maybe you can relate to all, or maybe you don't relate to any of them, but every mom has something to confess. Don't feel guilty for having these thoughts. We're mommies, but more than that we are human. Taking care of these little lives every single day can sometimes take it's tool on a person. That doesn't make you horrible it makes you normal! It's good to let out these confessions sometimes because then you can see how many mamas share your thoughts and you can know that you are not alone! Feel free to confess in the comments or do so through our Mommy Confessions page anonymously.
11 Things A Baby Would Say...
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It is almost sad to know that our little bundles of joy cannot talk to us when they’re very young. We are sure that there are very many things that they would like to tell their mothers. Some of it may be funny; some of it may be cringe worthy. Wouldn’t you like to know what your baby would want to tell you? Luckily enough for you, we have compiled an amazing list of some of the things that your baby would likely want to tell you if they could utter comprehensible words:
"Since we are sharing the same bed, and I want to be totally honest with you, you should know that you are never going to ‘sleep in’ again. Just strike it out of your weekend list of fun things to do. I cry in the middle of the night, and I will not stop till the sun stops playing that silly hide and seek game with me!"
"You would also cry if you were wrapped in a tight little mommy blanket and put down on a bed after being breastfed. I mean, the pressure is just too much and it is not a coincidence that I puke right after you have let go of me. Are you even listening to me mom?!"
"Do you know how embarrassing it is for you to smell my privates in public? Could you do that at home before we leave?! Come on mom!"
"I have to say this: I’m so lucky I have my own candy dispenser! I only have to cry and I’ll be getting free milk and it’s all mine! Don’t you dare share it with anyone else!"
"Do us both a favor and clean me up please? I’m stinking. Oops. There it goes again."
"I cry when I'm hungry, I cry when I'm scared, I cry when I don't see you every second of the day. Don't take it personally I'm a baby it's what we babies do."
"Boob for breakfast, boob for second breakfast, boob for lunch, boob for dinner, boob for a midnight snack, boob pretty much every hour on the hour. Hope you're good with that."
"I fall asleep when I'm tired so stop trying to schedule in my naps because I guarantee you I won't fall asleep when you want me to."
"I don't cry because I'm trying to manipulate you I cry because it's the only way I know how to communicate with you. "
"I feel the safest when you wear me near to your heart. Don't ever let me go."
"I can tell you're stressed and I'm 99.999% sure it's because of me. I'm the reason you don't sleep, I interrupt your meals, I give you no peace and quiet, and you can't even pee alone most days, but I'm sure you know that I'm worth it!"
Your baby may not be able to communicate in words what they feel, think, and want, but just know that they do appreciate you in every way possible. Some days may seem so long and stressful and you wonder if you will ever get your sanity back, but then your baby smiles and coos at you and reminds you of exactly what matters and why you do everything that you do. Keeping your baby happy and content is your priority and you will do whatever it takes to make that happen!
An Open Letter To The Mom Who Didn't Breastfeed From A Breastfeeding Advocate...
/I do not know the reason on why you didn't breastfeed and guess what? I don't spend my time obsessing over trying to figure out why either. It's not that I don't care about your story because I do and if you choose to share it I will listen with an open heart.
Here is why I do not obsess over the fact you don't breastfeed:
1.) I cannot change the fact you didn't breastfeed so spending my time giving you the third degree is pointless and would come off judgmental and rude and I'm not about that. I don't want to criticize you and I don't want you to feel judged by me.
2.) Because I promote acceptance on a daily basis. I feel like those who argue for a woman's right to breastfeed how she chooses goes hand in hand with feeding choices in general. Putting down a mother for not choosing breastfeeding is placing conditions and stipulations which directly contradicts the freedom of choice that we are fighting for.
3.) I do not believe the way a mother nourishes her baby defines her. I do not believe that a mom who breastfeeds is better than a mom who doesn't.
4.) I too, had my own struggles, shame , and regret with my breastfeeding journey and I refuse to be the culprit for someone else's.
5.) My passion is for supporting mothers unconditionally even if that means supporting their choice not to breastfeed. No not because I want everyone to like me , but because I feel like it all ties together and I wouldn't feel true placing conditions on mothers on whether I would or wouldn't welcome and support them.
6.) Puts a lot of pressure on moms to the point it may cause them resentment and frustration towards their breastfeeding journey. Feeling like you have to breastfeed to be a good mom is not a reason to breastfeed. Your baby may sense that frustration and could make things difficult when it doesn't need to be.
7.) Because breast is not best it's the biological norm. I will not use language that derived from big corporations designed to pit mothers against each other by setting up a "standard" for best and worst. I do not think in terms of better or worse. The worst would be baby not getting fed at all.
8.) Because every mom has a story and I have no right coming at anyone and questioning their parenting abilities or their choices.
9.) I love and accept people and want to be a helping hand anyway that I can. I have found that acceptance is a true trait in advocacy. It shows people that they have someone not putting pressure on them to do it this way or that way. They have someone out there willing to stand up for them no matter what they choose. I've learned that it helps moms go into breastfeeding less focused on the pressure of being judged or criticized for having struggles or quitting sooner than they had planned.
I often catch a lot of heat from both the breastfeeding community and from moms who don't breastfeed. I can post a benefit of breastfeeding and will get accused of implying their formula fed baby will go without. I can post something supportive of all moms and be questioned on why. Seems like I can't win either way which is fine because I'm not trying to win anything. I will always support you even if that means supporting your decision not to breastfeed.
Man Attacks Breastfeeding Mom & You Won't Believe What Happens Next!
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Tabitha Elliot wrote into me about an incident that occurred while with her friend feeding her baby at a park in Nebraska. She and her friend were quietly sitting on the Park bench minding their own business feeding her baby. When they were then approached by a man demanding that she feed her baby somewhere else. When she refused he then threw water on her! You would not believe what happened next!
Making Memories Trump My Body Insecurities...
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As I stare outside sun blazing down I think to myself, The pool would feel so good right now and my son would have a blast. There is a community pool where I live and there is always at least 5 or more people there swimming, laying out, having chicken fights. I think to myself I should be excited to go swim with my son, watching his face light up with delight as he enters the pool, but the thoughts that overcome me is how will I manage to cover my stretch marks, my cellulite, and my flab from the five or so people who will be there? How can I manage to be in sync with my son while also making sure that either the pool water has my body covered , my cover up dress, or towel.
“Are you going to get in the pool mommy? Please come swim with me?” The answer that comes out is, “Maybe in a little bit bud, mommy wants to soak in some sun first.” What I'm really doing is trying to mustard up the courage to uncover myself with the layers I have covered myself with and all I'm thinking is I wish these people would turn the other direction or leave so that I could sneak inside the pool to be with my son before they spot my flabby legs that rub together.
All my son wants is to play in the water with me. I want that as well, but why do the thoughts of my insecurity about my weight take over? Why do I consume myself with anxiety of other people spotting my flaws?
My neighbor looks my way and says, “You should get it the water it's nice.” I give a smile and say, “ I bet!” But what I'm really thinking is , “If you only knew how much I wanted to be in there right now, but you just won't look in the other direction.”
My son so desperate for someone to play with joins in with another mom and her kid playing Marco Polo. As I sit and watch from the lawn chair I see my son having the best time, having a blast actually while I was watching from the outside. My son is making memories with some neighbors he barely knows when I should be the one in there soaking it all in.
I'm sick of these self loathing thoughts, why do I care what people I barely even know think about the flab on my legs and stretch marks on my belly? Why am I so ashamed of the body that once carried life and sustained life as well? This is stupid my son needs me to stop wallowing in self loathing pity and be the mom he needs me to be. I can pity myself another day, but right now he needs me to be the carefree fun-loving mom that throws off that towel and cover up to get in that nice cold water and play with my son and be present in the moment.
I not only finally got in the water, but I did a cannonball in and boy did I have all eyes on me then. I didn't care though because all I saw was my sons face light up with delight as he swam over to me to tell me how cool I was for making that giant splash. In that moment my anxiety disappeared all people saw of me in that moment was a good mom being there in the moment with her kid not how much flab my legs have or how many dimples are on my thighs. Insecurity's about my body may never go away, but the time I have left to make memories with my kid will so it's time for me to get my priority's in check. I can't let anything interfere with making amazing memories with my son because I know one day I would live to regret that I worried more about the few people who may or may not see my flaws than I did being in the moment with my son.
I'm not obese, but I'm also not a size seven either. I have had issues with weight fluctuation all my life. I don't know why I obsess over it because I know I really am not as horrible looking as I have painted myself out to be in my head. I do know that I'm not the only mom or woman with body insecurity's. I guess why I felt the need to share about the day when I finally broke free from my own person jail cell restricting me from being the in the moment mom I wanted to be is because I want another mom out there who may be sharing my same thoughts to realize that making memories with her kids is what she should be obsessing over , is what she should be caring about more. When I came to the realization that I was putting my self loathing thoughts over making lifetime memories with my son is when I literally dove out of that Jail cell I had locked myself into for so long, boy did it feel great, and not one regret about it!
